When do we really say it is enough?
I can't take this anymore.
I have truly had ENOUGH!
For the past month...most newspapers and gossip magazines in 9ja carried the news of the 'WIFE BASHER'- Ambassador Wigwe...and how he beat his wife to a bloody pulp in Kenya.
So what? Some may say...
Or how horrifying! Others may say...
But for the first time..I truly won't ask your opinion ‘cos it doesn't matter what you say...I just want to vent and recount my experience.
I was in this relationship….all goofy eyes and all. He was Igbo and yeah perfect candidate for hubby.. (back in the days when I believed that what will make you acceptable..is a husband by your side)
The first month of our relationship, I walked in on him with another girl...(alarm signals)...after loads of flowers, cuddles and begging..I forgave...and took him back
After about a year, I walk into his house and deja vu...another infidelity act....and as usual, he comes “abegging”..and this time I lose it...I rant, rave, curse and swear..and wham! A slap..yes peeps ..he gave your 9jachic a resounding slap...Seriously? Yes seriously!
You know how we all tell ourselves that if we find ourselves in a situation or the other, we may act in certain ways...well..let’s say I have had this notion that if a guy as much as pointed a finger to my face I will bring in a mob, topple everything I can lay my hands on over his head and still make sure he lives to regret it.
And before you ask...I will certainly tell you that all I did was breakdown and cry...cry….all while being scared shitless too. (Ok honestly, I think my tears was because immediately he slapped me, he ran to me and held me..shaking and begging me to forgive me..I don't know..but the truth is ..I didn't fight back..didn't curse anymore...). All I did was cry and that night was the best *** we ever had. Yeah, so go figure!
Weird right? I never let him forget it though...I always teased about the day he beat me..which always left him embarrassed...and that’s ‘cos he is a good guy.
However, while we may say it s all women bashing or cases of domestic violence, my case is different from the Wigwe beating case. The Wigwe kind man beats women to show his superiority and does it over and over again.
And women (especially in Nigeria) take this beating and hush up about it.
I have thought about it and can only say you can't blame them….they are after all ‘MRS!” - the highest title a woman can bear.
So you wonder..is that what women have been reduced to? Punching bags..pads to throw around...blocks to hit and mix with stones and cement...filthy dogs….rags....all in the bid to maintain the marital status.
Is it worth it?
Ok now I ask...pray tell!